Today I am reflecting on my past and remembering all the little guys and gals I taught in first grade at Valley View Elementary in Bloomington, MN. My first class of first graders would be graduating this upcoming year. Can't believe I've been at it that long! I am thinking of those wonderful children that taught me so much about life and learning, struggles in the classroom, as well as at home in some cases. It was a challenging way to begin my career as a teacher, working with such a diverse population of families and teachers. An amazing experience!
There are days when I wish I could go back and talk to myself, remind myself to be just a little bit more patient, just a little but more understanding, maybe a bit more calm than I was in certain situations of misbehavior. After having my own children, I learned that calmness in the face of adversity (even among the little ones) is the best way to gain their trust and respect. I'm human, and of course don't always respond in this way! But I think we all know - love and compassion, choices, and a genuine care for your kiddos goes a long, long way.
Now, I'm not saying that when a child breaks a rule, constantly disrupts class, or hurts another child that you buckle under pressure and let it pass. If caring and consistent boundaries have been drawn, I imagine the punishment will be clear to these children, and will gently be put into place....right?
Several of my kiddos acted out, just to see me "act up." And, on occasion, I certainly did put on a show. Now, I was not an ogre, I loved my kids. But, I know they wanted drama, and sometimes, they got what they wanted. What if I hadn't let myself create that scene? What if I would have brought myself back down to the level of caring and compassion, letting them know I truly cared, was simply disappointed, and the consequence was on the way. Kill them with kindness, in other words! I think many of the antics and disruptions would have stopped, much sooner.
We all know compliments and redirection go further to prevent misbehavior than public displays of anger or frustration. If we want to cure the disrespect and outburst of bad behaviors in the classroom, we need to teach them how to be respectful. Treat them with respect, they will learn to respect.
My children are 5 and 2, girl and boy, very competitive for mom and dad's attention. They try to outdo one another all the time, and sometimes even work together to push the limit of mom's patience. I know how much a little extra love and compassion, care and understanding works with my children....they are much more cooperative, eager to please and seem to get along better with one another.
This is just my two cents for the day. I think it all boils down to one thing. Love.
Show a little love, compassion, understanding and interest in your students! Everyday! Teach like it might be your last day to make an impact. Let every kiddo know they are special and worth your time. Then, watch the learning happen; Behavior problems diminish a little more each day.
I bet your golden apple it will work! :-)
